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What about the Goldfish?

40 Reflections #27: 40 days of raw recollections during the Lenten Season

FLASHBACK STORY…A FAVORITE!

The multitude of miles on the road of motherhood can be bumpy, yet always fulfilling.

As parents, we navigate from diapers to diaries- pacifiers to car keys. Personally, I’ve been blessed to be home with our children throughout their childhood.

A Stay-At-Home-Mom. A title I relish.

Sure, once they are all in college, I’ll work until I’m 95, but right now, I’m home, and isn’t that worth the same as a large 401K?

(Please keep answers to yourselves).

Given the fact our Irish Triplets will be attending college (God-willing) back to back, I have decided to substitute teach (and work other part-time jobs) as much as possible to continue saving. So, I’ve been working nearly every day.

Today, I was offered a long-term substitute position in the Pre-K Special Needs Room. Having worked in this room for years, I knew accepting the position was the right thing to do. Primarily to serve the students but also to support the teachers who work insanely hard in a room where each child’s mind resides on the spectrum.

As I was mulling over the new work schedule with our 15-year-old daughter, she sweetly stated,

“Well, don’t forget about us!”

My heart stumbled on itself. Touched, I uttered, “Awe, you guys miss me when I’m working?”

“Sure.” My daughter assured me. “But we have no food.”

“What?” I questioned.

REALLY, we have NO FOOD.” 

Visualizing the grocery inventory in my mind, I was certain we had plenty of food for them to make their breakfasts and lunches. So I probed further, “What do we need?”

“Well, you know, Goldfish and Cheez-Its!”

Ah-ha! That’s what they needed me for. I was the supplier of high-carb snack foods for their lunches! It all makes sense now. I asked her to add the items to the Costco list, and I would make my way there Monday.

What I learned:

Whether our children admit missing me or not, I will always supply them with lunch snacks (until I crack the code for those yummy crackers and make my own), drive them wherever they need to go (and take all of their friends), and listen to their stories even if it’s waaay past their bedtime.

Being a mom is indeed the ultimate job for me.

Here’s to Another Good Day!

Thanks for joining me,

Lucretia

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To the ordinary day…

Lenten Reflections #25

To the ordinary day:

Thank you for the mammogram and the basket of laundry. For that long walk with the dogs, two hours on the phone with the Xfinity representative, and the lower bill. Thanks for a job to go to, work that matters, and the rain to wash the pollen away. Thanks for the Costco $1.50 hot dogs, a full tank of gas, and the traffic that slowed my rushed psyche today. For the sink full of dishes, windows to wash and clothes to get dirty. For serenity in the minutia, I thank the ordinary day.

What I learned:

Days devoid of any exceptional or grandiose elements are cloaked in a spiritual goodness, freeing our daily to-do lists to fill us with grace and purpose.

Count every little blessing and thank God for them all.

Here’s to Another good ORDINARY day,

Thanks for joining me,

Lucretia

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What is your content diet?

40 Reflections: 40 days of raw recollections during the Lenten Season

#19 (Throwback Thursday – updated)

I grew up with the newspaper on the table every morning, and another local paper would hit the steps in the afternoon. We ate fresh tomatoes from our garden and apricots from our trees and ensured we ate clean, healthy food. In our home, what we consumed was paramount to who we were. Healthy food and quality news mattered.

One of the most well-read people I know, Polina Pompliano, founder of The Profile, takes a deep dive into content diets and how we can improve what we consume. She believes, “What you eat is who you are, and what you read is who you become…While most of us are willing to invest in our health, we often neglect our ‘content diet,’ which refers to the type of information we choose to feed our brains on a daily basis.”

WHAT DO YOU CONSUME?

The key is to first take a good look at what content we consume. TikTok? Youtube? Podcasts? The Atlantic? National Geographic? CNN? Fox News? NPR? PBS? The options are endless and we are all at the mercy of whatever lands in our inbox each morning. Will it deplete our energy and precious time? Will it invigorate us? Agree with us? Anger us? Widen our scope of the world?

IS IT TIME FOR A CONTENT CLEANSE?

Perhaps it’s time for a cleanse or a change of channel or…is it time to turn off the noise, end the mindless scrolling, and focus on what will increase your knowledge and help you contribute to and elevate conversations. Be intentional about your input.

NPR’s Clay Johnson said, “The question is, can we make enough people go: ‘Hey, you know what? I’m done. I’m done with the sensationalism of media. I’m done being taken advantage of by media companies so that I can have ads sold to me.’ If we want to make media better, then we’ve got to start consuming better media.” Personally, I love NPR and PBS.

What I learned:

Only we can control our content intake and decide how much we will consume. We have the power to fill our bodies with essential nutrients and our minds with nourishing content. Let’s spend our time wisely.

Here’s to Another Good Day!

Thanks for joining me,

Lucretia

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5 NO-EXCUSE Workouts

Movement makes the heartbeat stronger

Lenten Reflections #7 – 40 raw reflections during the Lenten Season

Lenten Reflections #7 – 40 raw reflections during the Lenten Season

While at the gym the other day I saw a family friend from church who I stopped to chat with for a minute. Typically, I am not very social at the gym – I mean, most people are listening to whatever is pumping out of their earbuds/phones so I don’t feel guilty. But I felt like I should at least say hello. After a few moments of pleasantries about family and running, he blurted, “I feel like I’m always playing catch-up at the gym! We went out of town to visit our daughters and I just haven’t been able to exercise. Plus, I retired so the pressure of the schedule is gone and even though I used to get up and run before work every day, it’s so hard now. Why is that?” He looked tired and defeated after his speech which sounded more like a confession than small talk. We tend to do that, overanalyze why we haven’t done something, and then immediately beat ourselves up because we didn’t do it.

I commiserated with him on the lowered motivation and told him somedays I have to convince myself I can always do something. Anything. A brisk walk, pushups, stretching, just move! No excuses. Plus, he was at the gym already so he was much better off than most. We said our goodbyes and I said, “I’ll see you at church, or here!” He said, “Okay, not much difference in the letters. You know CRUNCH gym and CHURCH.” Ha ha! I liked the connection.

So in an effort to spread a little motivation around, I came up with five workouts that will help carve out a fraction of our day just for ourselves. Not only will it make us happier, but everyone around you will benefit from the fact that you exercised today!

Here they are, pick one, set aside 15 minutes…

Ready, Set, Go!

#1 – 6 Rounds For Time: 10 Pushups, 10 Air Squats, 10 Sit-ups

#2 – 8 Rounds For Time: Handstand 30 seconds, 10 Squats

#3 – 10 Rounds For Time: 10 Walking Lunges, 10 Pushups

#4 – 10 Rounds For Time: 10 Pushups, 10 Sit-ups, 10 Squats

#5 – 20 Rounds For Time: 5 Pushups, 5 Squats, 5 Sit-ups

What I learned:

Muscle mass is a use-it-or-lose-it benefit. According to the National Library of Medicine, 30% of adults over age 70 have trouble with walking, getting up out of a chair, or climbing stairs. In addition to making everyday tasks difficult, mobility limitations can also cause falling, chronic disease, nursing home admission, and mortality.

Let’s opt for movement!

Thanks for joining me,

Lucretia

Continued prayers for the Pope and all on your prayer lists.

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Lost teeth = Kid Trophies

#27 Lenten Reflections

I’m betting at most schools it’s tooth season. To a kid under ten, a wiggly tooth or a lost tooth is like a tiny trophy. So recently, to help my students celebrate their toothy triumphs, IF they can tell me they have a wiggly or lost a tooth in Spanish, they can write their names on a poster in the classroom. It’s kind of like graffiti for kids. If you’re five or six years old and can slap your name on a poster with a fat Sharpie, it’s a BIG deal.

This took me back to when our daughter’s teeth seemed almost cemented into her mouth.

In August 2009, our daughter realized something was happening to her tooth. She was seven years old, and most days, our walk home from the bus included at least one story about a friend losing a tooth, and the coveted sparkly tooth necklace they toted home. Finally, she had a loose tooth and she was going to get it out!

In various attempts to loosen her tooth, she wiggled it with two fingers, then tried the single-finger jiggle, and soon discovered her tongue could enlist her tooth to dance. Like most kids under 10, she hoped her tooth would fall out at school where lost tooth recipients received a free trip to the nurse’s office, where the tooth holder necklaces were stashed in the bottom file drawer. Later that day, much to her dismay, the tooth fell out while playing with her brothers on the backyard lawn. The tooth was found, placed in a homemade tooth necklace, and was set gently under her pillow that night. Note: Our Tooth Fairy was frequently “off duty” on the nights the teeth were waiting to be replaced by a gold dollar or a $2 bill.

Fast forward eight years. Waiting for Cora’s teeth to fall out was like watching paint dry. They held on tight. Some things just need to happen naturally, we thought…until talk of “small jaws” was slipped into the description of our children’s mouths. Awe. Sounds cute. But then, much like a baton passed in the 400 relay, a little piece of paper from the dentist was handed to us encouraging orthodontia services. After googling ‘orthodontia’ my first thought was, “Who even uses that word?” And second, I realized all the chatter about braces was true. These metal wonders cast a wide net. Everyone from ages 7-60 were donning colorful mouths, and pockets filled with teeny rubber bands, special floss, and disposable toothbrushes. All were welcome for the low low price of $5,000-ish.

So without looking back (not sure why), we picked the best (aka – most economical) orthodontist we could find. A gem of a man, Dr. McLendon understood my matter-of-factness when I told him we did NOT want the multi-round plan. That’s when kids get braces right after they kick the diaper habit, give their mouths a break while they learn to walk, and then jump back into the metal molds by grade school. Perhaps a slight exaggeration. We settled on the standard package with a 5% discount when paid in full, and as many “free” tiny containers of floss as you can “acquire” upon exiting.

Once we paid our admission for the braces roller coaster, our trips to the orthodontist were more frequent than our Costco runs. Maybe it’s just me, but either kid’s teeth are growing in looking as haphazard as the megalithic monument Stone Henge, or impeccable, movie star teeth are now the norm. Have you seen anyone under 40? They all have beautiful pearly whites.

Back Then…

Growing up in the 70’s, our family dentist, Dr. Johnston had a hardy laugh and reading glasses permanently perched on the tip of his nose as he peered into our small-jawed mouths (oh, genetics). While we waited, my sisters and I marked up the well-loved stack of Highlights and heard rave reviews of “no cavities!” hollered boisterously from the back of the office. We’d happily head home, and Mom would mark the calendar for six months when we’d see our jolly dentist again.

You see, back then, moms like mine possessed the orthodontist superpower. This braces radar, or “BRADAR” was so powerful, that with one glance at their children’s smiles, they could determine whether they truly needed braces. 9/10 times, the answer was no. Sometimes, moms could transfer these stellar abilities to their children and let them decide whether they wanted braces or not. Brilliant. Was the word orthodontia mentioned? Never.

In today’s world, orthodontia is as common as watching YouTube for a DIY project, or a funny cat video, so buckle up – the braces train is coming!

Thanks for joining me,

❤️Lucretia

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Music and a gal from Galway, Ireland

#7 Lenten Reflections

I love music. Everything about it. In college, I worked at a restaurant called Black Bart’s Steakhouse, Saloon, & Musical Review in Flagstaff, AZ. Most nights I carried five plates on my arm filled with T-bone steaks and slung colorful cocktails called things like the “Arizona Sunset” and the “Singapore Sling”. On the half-hour, the staff would stop and we’d all belt out a few Broadway tunes – then as the “Saints Went Marching In” or a favorite “Phantom” song ended with harmony bouncing off the knotty pine walls, it was business as usual. Throughout the night servers would jump on stage to sing assigned solos which were listed on the back of the swinging kitchen door. It was the best job. I sang alongside phenomenally talented people who have gone on to direct movies, sing in operas throughout the world, and work at NPR. Some of us teach and blog. Well, that might just be me, but I’ve got some priceless memories and really cool friends.

I am always hunting for fun music that I can connect with, so when I was reading the “Deamon Deacon” a fantastic, daily blog put out at my daughter’s university, I stumbled upon a recommendation for a soulful song by 20-year-old Aimee Carty that blew me away.

Aimee Carty is a young Irish singer/songwriter who is a master of storytelling. Each song is laden with wonderfully catchy lyrics that sound like a journal entry. “Two Days into College” is one of those songs I want to memorize, analyze, and share. Today I walked the dogs and listened to it five times. Possibly seven. I couldn’t stop listening. Carty’s voice is absolutely delightful and heartwarming and as she sits at the piano singing, you just want to be in the room with her and hang out.

One evening while we were washing dishes, I played “Two Days into College” in the kitchen and heard my son singing along. Turns out he had already heard it on TikTok. You see, sports and music are his main feed, so although he had seen Carty sing the song herself, he had recently seen Duke basketball player, Jared McCain singing the introduction to “Two Days into College” on TikTok. Turns out I’m not the only one who memorized the lovely and honest lyrics. It went viral. McCain boosted her name, it was so sweet.



The lyrics read like prose…a story she jotted in her journal or just told her friend on the phone. She talks about her first two days of college, being behind (already), worrying about doing too much or not enough, messy rooms, and a boy she named Collin who doesn’t play guitar.

Carty makes it effortless to relate to her song…as those two days could be the first of anything: a new job, a first date, the first moments of grief or joy or wonder.

And isn’t it so, that every day we are on the cusp of sorrow or stress, bliss or the unknown, maybe we should take two days at a time and reflect like Aimee Carty.

I’ll leave you with her healing, wise words:


God, I know
The one thing that’s important above everything else
Is to learn not to put all this heavy pressure on myself
I try believe it when I say
“If it’s meant to happen, it’ll happen anyway
I’ll be fine”

I’ve got time
I’ve got time
That’s where I’m at, to be honest
Just two days
Two days into college

Thanks for joining me,

❤️Lucretia

You can follow Aimee Carty on YouTubeInstagram, and TikTok.

Note: I have no idea why everything above is in italics. I pressed something after midnight and couldn’t “undo” it. Even after saying a few choice words. Some things are just meant to be I guess. Have a happy day.

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Are you sitting 90% more than usual? This will help…

As humans we are social animals therefore, we naturally miss our human connections, which can make us a little cranky…and once we’re cranky, we forget to move…and then we get crankier! So, like in the book If You Give a Mouse a Cookie…things go south quickly, and we can lose our focus. Together let’s stretch our bodies and stay positive.

WHY STRETCH? 

According to Harvard Health Medical School (they know):

“Stretching keeps the muscles flexible, strong, and healthy, and we need that flexibility to maintain a range of motion in the joints. Without it, the muscles shorten and become tight. Then, when you call on the muscles for activity, they are weak and unable to extend all the way. That puts you at risk for joint pain, strains, and muscle damage.”

Here are some stretches to give your body and mind strength and clarity.  

Stay in each position shown for 30 seconds (static). Focus on deep breathing and you’ll get some mental stress relief as well. I used The Daily Burn as a resource.

Hip Flexor Stretch: 
Here’s how:Think that hip pain is bursitis? Think again. - Harvard Health Standing up, mimic sitting with one leg crossed over the other, or use a chair as shown for support, so you have two right angles with your legs, one resting on the other.  Sit, hold it, and then switch.

 

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Side Oblique Stretch: 
Lengthen the side of your body as you stretch.
Here’s how: Stand with feet a little wider than hip-distance apart. As you lift one arm overhead with your palm facing inward, reach and lean toward the opposite side of the arm raised. Hold for 15 seconds, then switch sides.

Downward Dog: 
This stretch isDownward Dog Clipart focused on hip and shoulder mobility while stretching your hamstrings, lats (mid-back muscles) and deltoids (shoulder muscles).
Here’s how: Begin in a plank position with shoulders directly over wrists. Push your hips up toward the ceiling so you form a triangle with your body. Keep your head between your arms and straighten your legs as much as possible. Reach your heels toward the ground and spread your fingers, so your bodyweight gets distributed evenly through the hands and feet.

Cat: 
Back pain? This pose will encourage blood flow and increase mobility in your spine.

Here’s how: Get on your hands and knees on a carpet or mat, with wrists in line with shoulders and knees in line with hips. Round your back, tuck your pelvis and look toward the floor, as you scoop your abs upward.

Cow: 
What is the opposite of caHow to Do Cat-Cow Pose in Yoga – YogaOutlet.comt pose? Cow pose, of course. This will stretch your abs and chest muscles.
Here’s how: Get on your hands and knees on an exercise mat, wrists under shoulders and knees in line with hips. Arch your back, look slightly upward and stick your chest out.

Child’s Pose: 
This stretch is an incredibly calming posture and works well for recovery, too. You’ll streBalasana, child, meditation, pose, yoga icontch the low back, lats, and shoulders.
Here’show: Get on all fours on an exercise mat. From your hands and knees, push your hips back until your bottom rests on your heels. (Knees are slightly wider than hips.) Keep your arms straight out in front of you and look at the floor, stretch!

 

Lying Hug Stretch:
Miss all those hugs you got prior to social distancing?

Does my Back Need Cracking? [Don't Screw it Up!]Here’s the remedy and the perfect way to relieve tension in your low back. Here’s how: Lie on your back on an exercise mat or carpet. Tuck your knees toward your chest and grab your calves, as you roll your head up to meet your knees.

Along with stretching remember to keep your immune system strong and eat plenty of immune-boosting foods!

Here are my top 10 favorites: 

Ginger

Citrus

Bell peppers

Garlic

Spinach

Yogurt

Almonds

Turmeric

Sunflower seeds

Green Tea

Take care of yourself and others 🙂